Children are very absorbent beings. This is how they learn things so quickly. If we, for a moment, look at this aspect of a child, and slow down enough to realize what this means, we can perhaps realize that nature of learning.
What does the child absorb? They have no learned information, as in specializing in some discipline. Those children who are born into families where the parents have learned a discipline, tend to learn that discipline as well. I have a friend here, who attended Harvard, and yet his profession is cutting down trees. He told me his father had studied the classics extensively, and he grew up in a house where these things were constantly spoken of. By the time he reached college, he could talk the talk of the classics and had the information that allowed him access to the higher levels of learning that demanded such a background. Of course, this does not always happen. One either accepts the specialized knowledge or one does not. One can become the persona of rejecting the constructs of information. Yet, accepting the information or rejecting the information is a movement, it is building or making a decision not to build the body of information present. The point is that information is built and that it is a choice- or not. Does the child that makes the choice to not build become that information as that measure of rejecting the information? And could this choice actually become a limitation that inhibits the child from choosing something else to inform them? More than likely yes, as we all know personalities that appear to have no direction, and are angry about their childhoods. It would not take too much effort to realize that within the “ mindfulness’ paradigm, the measure of information, as rejection, would be the thoughts coming up that need not define the person/child. Yet, this all makes it clear that we become the information we are exposed to and/or the reactions/resistances we have towards that information.
Do we as parents realize how this works within the example above? Do we realize that every measure we convey, we express, informs the child? When we come home from busy day, and are caught in some problem, some upset - based on not remembering this- and spin that upset around in our selves, and in so doing lack attention to the child and what we are modeling, do we slow down to consider the overall presence we are projecting as a form? When we blame something in our world are we modeling solutions and careful measure of the parts that build the form? And, are we addressing what discoveries that child themselves may have made within their day to ensure that the understanding in the child is clear. Are we doing within ourselves, as our information and how we are spinning it, for the child? If we understand that a child can pick up all information, through a great absorbent ability, can we realize that what we allow within ourselves is what is going to be absorbed by the child, and that this very ability is the learning ability of the child? And, this begs the question as to what is being imparted in the child via media.
Let us look at the behavior of a child, in a school, that has been exposed to a parent that developed a resistance to what was in their environment as a child. If a parent has history of resisting what information they had around them as young children, would that pattern then be influenced into the next generation? Would that child develop difficulty in taking in information in school because the information the child absorbed in the home was a form of expression of resistance? Could we call this an emotional polarity? Would the child. not understanding this as that child absorbed the measure of the parent, then begin to define themselves as not being able to learn? Would this spiral into a personality, as the very words a child spoke or believed within themselves, that they were not very smart? Would such a belief system take a lot of time to work through, and within the present system, would countering this belief and realizing that because of this inner belief, that taking in new information was going to be slow until the momentum past the belief was built. And does a school, a public school, have the time to sort this out in the children?
It is to say in many ways, that there is no good or bad, there is balancing out what has been absorbed within, and grounding that ability to absorb into structures that allow self direction in clear and productive ways. Building such children would benefit the society as a whole, because the collective ability of each would be capable and able to realize how this works and work together to create a community of people who realized that capacity of each to reform and direct in ways that produced effective systems that benefitted everyone. I mean, what is a school overall? A school is a system where men work together, where people form things. And it is a system that forms with what has been formed by the parents and the parents before them. In this we are all responsible for what is the forms we accept and allow, and it is our responsibility to realize how this all works. Each part has the responsibility to sort this out, this aspect of how a child is formed by the information within the environment they are exposed.
Within this, imagine being a teacher wanting to impart a general scaffold of information in a classroom in a school. Let us set aside what that information may be, for a moment because that is another issue- one that cannot be addressed until understanding and practicing how this works is understood in detail. That teacher is paid to impart a set body of information. She has a classroom filled with 20 or so students. Each student has a different background. Some have the ability to take in more of the information than others. Some have already developed a resistance based on many degrees of ideas within them, as the exposure of their past. That person, standing in front of that group, cannot teach the new information and sort out the measure in each child. Just as that measure was built over time, so that time frame of the classroom can only impart a certain measure within that space. A teacher cannot be speaking information and showing graphs and examples, and balance the measure of belief and direct the focus through a measure of belief at the same time for each child. And, what we form in our imaginations in relation to this, is not reality. What one can dream up is much easier than what is actual in reality. If one has experienced arriving at home, and not having the patience to address a child and sort out what occupies the presence of one’s self, then how can a teacher do this with 20 or so students in a classroom?
Let us place ourselves in the shoes of the child caught in a measure that is not what allows them to see through their information and take in new forms of information with an understanding of how this works. Do any of us want to not participate in absorbing new forms of information, and in ways that expand our awareness of how this world works? Remember that we enjoy when we understand things, because it is natural and self empowering when we understand something. We become anxious when we do not understand something, and we can all remember times where we were anxious, it is not enjoyable. We have more fun when we understand.
Imagine being that child who has not had things made clear, because the parents came home often stressed and worrying about something at work, for example. That child is not only absorbing that stress, they are also not sorting out something that they did not fully understand and/or scared them, in a TV show, or within an idea about what a friend said or did. That measure of uncertainty, is what is left within the child, and it accumulates and remains, tainting the perception of the child, slowing down that innate ability to absorb because the dis-clarity remains. Then, the child misses a step in understanding new information, and becomes more confused. The very behaviors of the child reflect this, in the inability to understand the new information. The teacher has so many hours in a day, before they return to their family, so they cannot sort this out. And that child returns home to parents who are busy sorting out their misunderstandings and - and this varies by degree - do not give the necessary time for a closure within a misunderstanding. What would happen over time as this accumulates? How many realize that by the time we are forty and our working and earning years are waning that we begin to realize this? Is this not too late? Do we want to repeat this with each generation? Is not prevention the best cure!
On one level, this reveals a very simple understanding. We become what we are exposed to, we become the program of our parents and the information we take in; we absorb. This means that we can realize a solution to all of this. We must rebuild. We can use the code, as language, and rebuild the measure within the child. We can automate that process. Technology is never emotional. It is a means to rebuild the measure within the subconscious of the child, to have the tools of thought, as words, to clean up and clear up emotional polarities of values that create a resistance and fear of information, and build the measures as the words, to then be able to see more clearly, and realize that capacity to absorb is the capacity to understand when the measure is available in detail and clear. We can turn technology into a teacher, into a one on one teacher, or tutor, to create clean placeholders of form, as words, as the details that build the understanding, to create a measure in the memory of the child, that is detailed and understanding of the parts that allow that movement into seeing the whole in ways that are productive. Here the child becomes an active participant, building a sense of joy in realizing their absorbent ability is the means as a natural ability to understand and direct themselves in communication with others and the world around them.
Imagine if you really knew your words, as the parts that build the whole, when you were in school. Imagine if you knew the parts as the words so well, that when that problem came up at work, you could critique the overall form and patterns, and creatively reform them to solve problems immediately, so that when you went home, there was time and space to focus on the child. This would be living the joy of understanding to such a degree that that absorbent ability was realized for the value that it is, and the relationship with the child would become one of joy. What kind of home life would this build? What kind of school environments would that create? What kind of society would that realize?
We ‘ spell ’ what we are in the words we speak. It is a magic that is in the doing, and words can help us to help ourselves. We can use technology to self empower what information we accept and allow in building that subconscious storehouse of information. It is time to get that in order, as this is what we would all want. Being anxious is no fun, being able to answer and reform and understand is!
If you are having reading problems, or processing information problems, send me a note and I will set up a meeting to help you help yourself.
Thank you for reading! Much appreciated!
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